Perfectionism is not high standards. It is the belief that anything less than perfect is evidence that you are not enough. Understanding the difference changes how you work and how you live.
Perfectionism is a pattern of thought and behavior characterized by setting unrealistically high standards and evaluating one's worth based on the ability to meet them. It is distinct from healthy high standards, the difference is not the standard itself, but what it means when the standard is not met.
High standards say: that was not good enough. Perfectionism says: I am not good enough.
Holding yourself to impossibly high standards. Strong internal critic. Difficulty accepting mistakes or imperfection in your own work.
Holding others to the same standards you hold yourself. Frustration, disappointment, or contempt when others do not meet your expectations.
The belief that others expect perfection from you. Performing for approval. Fear of being seen as inadequate or failing publicly.
Perfectionism and anxiety are closely connected. Both are rooted in the same underlying need: to control outcomes in order to feel safe. The perfectionist sets a standard that, if met, would guarantee approval or safety. The standard is rarely met. The anxiety persists.
One of the most common and least discussed combinations. Perfectionism creates procrastination, if you cannot do it perfectly, it is easier not to start. The delay feels like it is about the task. It is actually about protection from judgment.
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