Perfectionism Assessment
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Perfectionism Assessment
Are you a perfectionist?
You tell yourself you just have high standards. But high standards and perfectionism are not the same thing. High standards help you. Perfectionism punishes you.
This assessment measures three dimensions: self-oriented perfectionism, socially prescribed perfectionism, and the cost it is currently extracting from your life.
12 questions · 4 to 5 minutes · Based on Frost and Hewitt perfectionism research · Not a clinical diagnostic tool
Question 1 of 12
01 / 12
If I cannot do something well, I would rather not do it at all.
NeverI am fine with doing things imperfectly.
RarelyI sometimes hesitate but still try.
SometimesI notice I avoid things I might fail at.
OftenI regularly avoid things I cannot do well.
AlwaysI only do things I can do well.
02 / 12
Finishing something good enough feels like failure. I keep going past the point of diminishing returns.
NeverI can stop when something is good enough.
RarelySometimes I overdo it but can usually stop.
SometimesI often keep refining things that are already done.
OftenGood enough almost never feels good enough.
AlwaysI cannot stop until it is as good as I can make it.
03 / 12
I am very concerned about what other people think of my work and my performance.
NeverI care about quality, not judgment.
RarelyOccasionally aware of it but not driven by it.
SometimesOthers opinions influence me more than I would like.
OftenI frequently perform for external approval.
AlwaysWhat others think is a primary driver of my effort.
04 / 12
Making a mistake feels like more than an error. It feels like a reflection of who I am.
NeverMistakes are information, not identity.
RarelyOccasionally feel it personally but recover quickly.
SometimesMistakes hit me harder than they probably should.
OftenErrors feel like evidence of something wrong with me.
AlwaysEvery mistake confirms a negative story about myself.
05 / 12
I procrastinate on important tasks because I am afraid the result will not be good enough.
NeverFear of imperfection does not stop me from starting.
RarelyOccasionally delayed but I push through.
SometimesI recognize this pattern in myself.
OftenPerfectionism regularly causes me to delay or avoid.
AlwaysThe fear of imperfect output stops me before I begin.
06 / 12
I hold other people to the same high standards I hold myself, and I am often disappointed.
NeverI let people do things in their own way.
RarelyI have preferences but do not push them on others.
SometimesI notice frustration when others do not meet my standards.
OftenOther people imperfection regularly bothers me.
AlwaysAlmost no one meets the standard I expect.
07 / 12
I feel like the people around me expect more from me than I can consistently deliver.
NeverI feel the expectations around me are reasonable.
RarelyOccasionally feel the pressure but it passes.
SometimesI notice I am performing for expectations that are not mine.
OftenI frequently feel like I am falling short of what is expected.
AlwaysThe expectations feel impossible and relentless.
08 / 12
I replay past mistakes or failures in my head long after they have passed.
NeverI process and move on relatively quickly.
RarelySometimes I revisit things but not habitually.
SometimesI notice rumination more than I would like.
OftenPast failures come back regularly and occupy my mind.
AlwaysI cannot stop replaying things that went wrong.
09 / 12
I find it hard to celebrate what I achieved because I am already thinking about what I should do better.
NeverI can let achievements land before moving on.
RarelySometimes I move on quickly but I still feel the win.
SometimesWins pass quickly and the next task arrives immediately.
OftenI barely register accomplishments before moving to what is next.
AlwaysNothing I achieve feels like enough to stop and feel.
10 / 12
My self-worth is strongly tied to my performance. When I fail, I feel like less of a person.
NeverMy worth is separate from my output.
RarelyI notice the link but do not let it define me.
SometimesPerformance affects how I feel about myself more than I would like.
OftenMy sense of worth rises and falls with my results.
AlwaysWithout performance I am not sure what I am worth.
11 / 12
I find it difficult to ask for help because it would mean admitting I cannot handle things on my own.
NeverAsking for help feels normal and sensible.
RarelyA little uncomfortable but I can do it.
SometimesI delay asking longer than I should.
OftenAsking for help feels like admitting weakness.
AlwaysI would rather struggle alone than let people see I need help.
12 / 12
The gap between who I am and who I think I should be causes me constant low-level distress.
NeverI feel relatively okay about who I am right now.
RarelySometimes I feel the gap but it does not dominate.
SometimesThe gap between real and ideal is a quiet presence.
OftenThe gap feels large and persistent.
AlwaysI am never the person I think I should be.
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