At some point, feeling nothing started feeling normal. This assessment measures how disconnected you've become from your own emotional experience — and what that disconnection is actually about.
12 questions · 3–5 minutes · Based on alexithymia and emotional regulation research · Not a clinical diagnostic tool
Question 1 of 12
01 / 12
When something emotional happens, I struggle to identify exactly what I'm feeling.
NeverI can usually name what I feel clearly.
RarelyOccasionally unclear, but not a pattern.
SometimesMore often than I'd expect.
OftenI frequently don't know what I feel.
AlwaysI almost never know what I'm actually feeling.
02 / 12
I go through entire days without feeling anything that could be called emotion.
NeverMy days have emotional texture.
RarelyOccasionally flat, but not a pattern.
SometimesSome days just pass without anything.
OftenMost days feel emotionally blank.
AlwaysEvery day feels like this.
03 / 12
Things that used to move me — music, moments, people — no longer seem to reach me.
NeverThings still move me the way they used to.
RarelySometimes less, but mostly still there.
SometimesI notice a growing gap.
OftenMost things no longer reach me.
AlwaysAlmost nothing gets through anymore.
04 / 12
I feel like I'm watching my own life from a distance, rather than living it.
NeverI feel present in my own life.
RarelyOccasionally detached, but it passes.
SometimesI notice it more than I should.
OftenI frequently feel like an observer.
AlwaysI almost never feel inside my own life.
05 / 12
I find it difficult to cry, even when something genuinely sad happens.
NeverI cry when sad things happen.
RarelySometimes I hold back, but not always.
SometimesI notice I don't cry when I probably should.
OftenI rarely cry even when things are genuinely sad.
AlwaysI can't remember the last time I cried.
06 / 12
When people around me are emotionally affected, I feel disconnected from what they're experiencing.
NeverI generally feel connected to others' emotions.
RarelyOccasionally disconnected, but not usually.
SometimesI notice a gap more often now.
OftenI frequently feel separate from what others feel.
AlwaysOther people's emotions feel foreign to me.
07 / 12
I prefer to stay busy rather than sit with whatever I'm feeling.
NeverI'm comfortable sitting with my feelings.
RarelySometimes I distract, but not habitually.
SometimesI notice I fill silence deliberately.
OftenI almost always need to be doing something.
AlwaysStillness feels unbearable.
08 / 12
I struggle to explain what I'm feeling to other people, even when I want to.
NeverI can usually express what I feel.
RarelySometimes hard to articulate, but not often.
SometimesWords for feelings often don't come.
OftenI frequently can't find the words.
AlwaysI almost never know how to explain what's inside.
09 / 12
I sometimes wonder if I feel things less deeply than other people do.
NeverI feel things as deeply as I expect to.
RarelyThe thought has crossed my mind, but not often.
SometimesI notice a difference more than I'd like.
OftenI regularly wonder if something is different about me.
AlwaysI'm fairly certain I feel less than I'm supposed to.
10 / 12
Good things happen, but they don't register as good. They just happen.
NeverGood things feel good when they happen.
RarelySometimes a bit flat, but mostly I feel it.
SometimesI notice good things passing without landing.
OftenMost good things just pass through.
AlwaysNothing registers as particularly good anymore.
11 / 12
I feel most alive when I'm in some kind of crisis or high-stimulation situation.
NeverI feel alive in ordinary moments too.
RarelyIntensity helps sometimes, but not always.
SometimesCalm situations feel harder to be present in.
OftenI notice I only really feel things in intense moments.
AlwaysOrdinary life feels like nothing. I need intensity to feel.
12 / 12
The numbness has become so familiar that I'm not sure I'd recognize feeling again.
NeverI still know what feeling feels like.
RarelySometimes distant from it, but still recognizable.
SometimesI wonder sometimes what real feeling felt like.
OftenThe distance has become the default.
AlwaysThis is just how life feels now. I've accepted it.